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Bianca King On Married Life and Her Pregnancy Journey
Bianca King On Married Life and Her Pregnancy Journey
Janelle Roa Cabrera-Paraiso
Published Dec 03, 2022 08:00 PM PHT
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Updated Dec 19, 2022 09:42 AM PHT
Parenthood is no picnic, and it is true enough even for the toughest people in the province of parenting. The overwhelming responsibilities, taxing routines, and dire adjustments start knocking shamelessly and demand to be answered.
Parenthood is no picnic, and it is true enough even for the toughest people in the province of parenting. The overwhelming responsibilities, taxing routines, and dire adjustments start knocking shamelessly and demand to be answered.
Bianca King and Ralph Wintle, for example, have had to deal with different possibilities of conceiving a child—IVF included—and have come to a point of almost giving up. “I’m already 36 and the struggle for women—the emotional cycle monthly—is just a rollercoaster up and down. I was sick and tired of it,” Bianca tells us.
Bianca King and Ralph Wintle, for example, have had to deal with different possibilities of conceiving a child—IVF included—and have come to a point of almost giving up. “I’m already 36 and the struggle for women—the emotional cycle monthly—is just a rollercoaster up and down. I was sick and tired of it,” Bianca tells us.
Leaving her old life
Currently based in Australia, Filipino-Canadian artist Bianca King recollects her memory of moving to the region. “I didn’t really intend on moving to Australia,” she kicks off. “I just came here to visit Ralph on vacation in March 2020 and then, just with one suitcase and then a few days after I arrived, the borders closed because of the pandemic.”
Currently based in Australia, Filipino-Canadian artist Bianca King recollects her memory of moving to the region. “I didn’t really intend on moving to Australia,” she kicks off. “I just came here to visit Ralph on vacation in March 2020 and then, just with one suitcase and then a few days after I arrived, the borders closed because of the pandemic.”
Always keen to travel, Bianca originally targeted two to three months of stay in The Land Down Under, but a sudden move in the cosmos caused her fate to shift forever. “My flight got canceled so I extended, and when it was time for me to think about going home, we started talking about marriage,” she reveals. “If I had left, I wouldn’t have been allowed to enter Australia again, so I basically gave up everything. [I] gave up my life in the Philippines without ever flying back to pack my own stuff.”
Always keen to travel, Bianca originally targeted two to three months of stay in The Land Down Under, but a sudden move in the cosmos caused her fate to shift forever. “My flight got canceled so I extended, and when it was time for me to think about going home, we started talking about marriage,” she reveals. “If I had left, I wouldn’t have been allowed to enter Australia again, so I basically gave up everything. [I] gave up my life in the Philippines without ever flying back to pack my own stuff.”
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Without a regret, Bianca willingly welcomed her new life with her now-husband Ralph Wintle. “I was already 33 [at the time] and I was well-aware that it’s very difficult to find a partner—[to] find someone to date even, especially in the Manila scene.” Although by happenstance, she bumped into the best man that there is for her. “I felt very fortunate to have found someone, so I wasn’t willing to give that up,” she muses. “Life now—life here—is very simple, [and] I’ve always been a very simple person. I’m very private. I’m an introvert. I’m the total opposite of what you would expect an actress or a celebrity to be, so adjusting to life here was very easy for me.”
Without a regret, Bianca willingly welcomed her new life with her now-husband Ralph Wintle. “I was already 33 [at the time] and I was well-aware that it’s very difficult to find a partner—[to] find someone to date even, especially in the Manila scene.” Although by happenstance, she bumped into the best man that there is for her. “I felt very fortunate to have found someone, so I wasn’t willing to give that up,” she muses. “Life now—life here—is very simple, [and] I’ve always been a very simple person. I’m very private. I’m an introvert. I’m the total opposite of what you would expect an actress or a celebrity to be, so adjusting to life here was very easy for me.”
As someone who is low-profile and levelheaded, she embraces the very experience of a low-key lifestyle. “That’s the kind of life that I live here now—very quiet and very private.”
As someone who is low-profile and levelheaded, she embraces the very experience of a low-key lifestyle. “That’s the kind of life that I live here now—very quiet and very private.”
While Bianca leads a rather relaxed life, she, too, is an eager traveler, making it easier for her to meld with the Australian scene. “I traveled a lot, even in my mid-20s to early 30s. I traveled a lot because I love the feeling of anonymity. I love being able to explore a new city as a virtually unknown person,” she states. “Although people do see me on social media, it’s still a very curated version of my life. I’m not very public about everything. I’m very selective of the things that I share.”
While Bianca leads a rather relaxed life, she, too, is an eager traveler, making it easier for her to meld with the Australian scene. “I traveled a lot, even in my mid-20s to early 30s. I traveled a lot because I love the feeling of anonymity. I love being able to explore a new city as a virtually unknown person,” she states. “Although people do see me on social media, it’s still a very curated version of my life. I’m not very public about everything. I’m very selective of the things that I share.”
Prior to her pregnancy, Bianca has also taken on modeling jobs. “When I decided this year that it was time for me to start planting more roots in Australia, I was just thinking: ‘What is it that I want to do here? What is easy for me? What do I have a skill set in?’ Of course, it’s doing work in front of the camera.”
Prior to her pregnancy, Bianca has also taken on modeling jobs. “When I decided this year that it was time for me to start planting more roots in Australia, I was just thinking: ‘What is it that I want to do here? What is easy for me? What do I have a skill set in?’ Of course, it’s doing work in front of the camera.”
Mindful mothering
Since it is her first shot at motherhood, Mrs. Wintle does not dare miss a single step. “The confidence that I have going into birth, I think, will spill over into being a mother,” she opens. “Birth is such a big event, e. It’s not something that I take lightly, but something that I’m going to wing. I really want to be fully informed of everything—from labor all the way down to post-partum,” the 36-year-old actress shares.
Since it is her first shot at motherhood, Mrs. Wintle does not dare miss a single step. “The confidence that I have going into birth, I think, will spill over into being a mother,” she opens. “Birth is such a big event, e. It’s not something that I take lightly, but something that I’m going to wing. I really want to be fully informed of everything—from labor all the way down to post-partum,” the 36-year-old actress shares.
“My mindset has really been more like learning about birth so that I go into it confidently—without fear—’cause I know how fear can disrupt all of the hormones that are actually helpful for a natural birth,” she adds, bringing up that natural birth, she best believes, is the better option for herself and the baby. “My experience also affects my baby, right? I’m scared of traumatic births, although I’m aware [that] they happen.”
“My mindset has really been more like learning about birth so that I go into it confidently—without fear—’cause I know how fear can disrupt all of the hormones that are actually helpful for a natural birth,” she adds, bringing up that natural birth, she best believes, is the better option for herself and the baby. “My experience also affects my baby, right? I’m scared of traumatic births, although I’m aware [that] they happen.”
As she speaks candidly about her childbirth aspirations, Bianca mentions in passing that mindful birthing should also be taken into account. “I was always constantly looking for resources and just stories of women and their mindsets,” she shares.
As she speaks candidly about her childbirth aspirations, Bianca mentions in passing that mindful birthing should also be taken into account. “I was always constantly looking for resources and just stories of women and their mindsets,” she shares.
“Mindful birthing and mindful mothering, also, is my mindset in this whole pregnancy. I really immersed myself in childbirth education—understanding the physiological process of a natural birth and realizing that that’s what I wanted for myself. It’s not for everybody, but for me, I felt like it was best for me as a mother and it was best for my baby,” she tells Metro.Style, rounding up the tasks that she regularly does on a daily basis for ease of birth. “I enjoyed just researching everyday—listening to podcasts and reading books and watching all the documentaries out there.”
“Mindful birthing and mindful mothering, also, is my mindset in this whole pregnancy. I really immersed myself in childbirth education—understanding the physiological process of a natural birth and realizing that that’s what I wanted for myself. It’s not for everybody, but for me, I felt like it was best for me as a mother and it was best for my baby,” she tells Metro.Style, rounding up the tasks that she regularly does on a daily basis for ease of birth. “I enjoyed just researching everyday—listening to podcasts and reading books and watching all the documentaries out there.”
When asked about how prepared of a parent-to-be she is as she transitions to motherhood, Bianca responds as honestly as possible. “[I am] not very ready, actually. I don’t have anything for the baby yet,” she tells us back in late October. “A lot of my time has really been spent on education rather than buying stuff.”
When asked about how prepared of a parent-to-be she is as she transitions to motherhood, Bianca responds as honestly as possible. “[I am] not very ready, actually. I don’t have anything for the baby yet,” she tells us back in late October. “A lot of my time has really been spent on education rather than buying stuff.”
Bianca seeks a practical path when it comes to buying stuff for her and Ralph’s firstborn. “I would like to have everything prepared, of course—at least by my seventh month of pregnancy. I don’t want to cram buying stuff, but I know that the baby doesn’t need much.”
Bianca seeks a practical path when it comes to buying stuff for her and Ralph’s firstborn. “I would like to have everything prepared, of course—at least by my seventh month of pregnancy. I don’t want to cram buying stuff, but I know that the baby doesn’t need much.”
A minimalist by nature, she puts more premium on the necessities: “I won’t be buying a lot of things. It’s really just the essentials—cloth nappies, disposable nappies, things for bathtime, [and] somewhere for my baby to sleep.”
A minimalist by nature, she puts more premium on the necessities: “I won’t be buying a lot of things. It’s really just the essentials—cloth nappies, disposable nappies, things for bathtime, [and] somewhere for my baby to sleep.”
Healthy mind, healthy mom
With an edible garden full of homegrown fruits and vegetables, Bianca—without a doubt—is well-versed on the subject of sustainable eating. She explains, “I think I’ve always been eating healthy. In fact, mas naging unhealthy nga ako nang kaunti—for a little bit lang—during my pregnancy,” the actress admits, touching on how skinny she thought she was that she felt the need to fatten up. “I love [dishes] with broth [and] Filipino food with rice! I love savory and hearty food. Everyday, I eat a lot of different fruits. I [also] used to make a lot of salads before I got pregnant, but sometimes, there are risks to eating soil with unwashed greens.”
With an edible garden full of homegrown fruits and vegetables, Bianca—without a doubt—is well-versed on the subject of sustainable eating. She explains, “I think I’ve always been eating healthy. In fact, mas naging unhealthy nga ako nang kaunti—for a little bit lang—during my pregnancy,” the actress admits, touching on how skinny she thought she was that she felt the need to fatten up. “I love [dishes] with broth [and] Filipino food with rice! I love savory and hearty food. Everyday, I eat a lot of different fruits. I [also] used to make a lot of salads before I got pregnant, but sometimes, there are risks to eating soil with unwashed greens.”
As she frequently craves Filipino cuisine, she cooks food that are pregnancy-friendly and comes up with nutritious eats like chicken adobo, nilagang baka, and chicken tinola.
As she frequently craves Filipino cuisine, she cooks food that are pregnancy-friendly and comes up with nutritious eats like chicken adobo, nilagang baka, and chicken tinola.
As much as Bianca is inclined to making good food, she is great at emulating good thoughts, too. She knows what keeps her happy and healthy, and watches out for her non-negotiables as well.
As much as Bianca is inclined to making good food, she is great at emulating good thoughts, too. She knows what keeps her happy and healthy, and watches out for her non-negotiables as well.
“I think one thing that, I guess, I became more mindful about is mindful emotions. [I am] definitely more selective of what I put my energy into and anything that caused me anxiety or anything that stressed me out. I’m allergic to [them]. I’m not going to deal with it because I don’t want that stress and anxiety to transfer to my baby and I just want to be peaceful.” Bianca also finds meditating apps helpful in assisting her to motherhood. According to her, it eliminates the antagonistic effects of pregnancy such as mood swings and pre-birth blues.
“I think one thing that, I guess, I became more mindful about is mindful emotions. [I am] definitely more selective of what I put my energy into and anything that caused me anxiety or anything that stressed me out. I’m allergic to [them]. I’m not going to deal with it because I don’t want that stress and anxiety to transfer to my baby and I just want to be peaceful.” Bianca also finds meditating apps helpful in assisting her to motherhood. According to her, it eliminates the antagonistic effects of pregnancy such as mood swings and pre-birth blues.
When Bianca was asked about her acting career, she is not at all confused. She is not only a first-time mom, but also a full-time one in the making, so seeing herself bouncing back again is a far-fetched ambition at the moment. “My doors are never closed. I like to take things as they come. Of course, I set goals for myself. I set short-term and long-term goals, but with my priority of being a full-time mom and being present for this baby and maybe the next one that will come shortly after, I can’t spend too much time away from home,” the soon-to-be mom swears by.
When Bianca was asked about her acting career, she is not at all confused. She is not only a first-time mom, but also a full-time one in the making, so seeing herself bouncing back again is a far-fetched ambition at the moment. “My doors are never closed. I like to take things as they come. Of course, I set goals for myself. I set short-term and long-term goals, but with my priority of being a full-time mom and being present for this baby and maybe the next one that will come shortly after, I can’t spend too much time away from home,” the soon-to-be mom swears by.
“It’s not in my headspace at the moment or [in] the next year, but my doors are always open, especially if it is a good project. I am an artist at heart and acting is my craft, so I will always have it in me,” Bianca reassures, but noting that raising a child comes above all.
“It’s not in my headspace at the moment or [in] the next year, but my doors are always open, especially if it is a good project. I am an artist at heart and acting is my craft, so I will always have it in me,” Bianca reassures, but noting that raising a child comes above all.
On maintaining a marriage
Alongside her life reset is another lifetime ride that Bianca had to steer with her spouse Ralph. The two got married in September 2020, and have been together in Australia since the pandemic smacked. Living her present life, though, used to be an unimaginable trek.
Alongside her life reset is another lifetime ride that Bianca had to steer with her spouse Ralph. The two got married in September 2020, and have been together in Australia since the pandemic smacked. Living her present life, though, used to be an unimaginable trek.
“I think one of the biggest adjustments for any married couple is blending your lives together—blending your belongings under one roof and basically making compromises on everything,” she points out. As she has lived on her own for one long decade or so, cohabiting was such a daunting adjustment for the then-actress. “One of the things that was striking for me is just not having my own personal space anymore. I was living in his space, so I had to insert myself!” Bianca’s sense of self, nonetheless, never wavered. “You have to retain yourself—never lose your [identity].”
“I think one of the biggest adjustments for any married couple is blending your lives together—blending your belongings under one roof and basically making compromises on everything,” she points out. As she has lived on her own for one long decade or so, cohabiting was such a daunting adjustment for the then-actress. “One of the things that was striking for me is just not having my own personal space anymore. I was living in his space, so I had to insert myself!” Bianca’s sense of self, nonetheless, never wavered. “You have to retain yourself—never lose your [identity].”
“I was used to living very independently and calling my own shots, so communication and compromise, and I guess logistics, [are important],” Bianca highlights. “Marriage is a partnership that concerns a lot of logistics, so you have to be able to plan well together for things to work out, right? Keep your line of communication open—whether big or small, talk it through.”
“I was used to living very independently and calling my own shots, so communication and compromise, and I guess logistics, [are important],” Bianca highlights. “Marriage is a partnership that concerns a lot of logistics, so you have to be able to plan well together for things to work out, right? Keep your line of communication open—whether big or small, talk it through.”
As she thinks highly of marriage, Bianca also makes it a point to learn what her partner’s love language is, saying, “I think that’s a very important one, and that’s one hurdle we also had to overcome because my needs are different from his needs. When I need something and he gives it, it may not be exactly the love language that I need at that moment. Wala namang perfect match, e. You just have to work at it and learn more about each other.”
As she thinks highly of marriage, Bianca also makes it a point to learn what her partner’s love language is, saying, “I think that’s a very important one, and that’s one hurdle we also had to overcome because my needs are different from his needs. When I need something and he gives it, it may not be exactly the love language that I need at that moment. Wala namang perfect match, e. You just have to work at it and learn more about each other.”
Contrary to popular belief that couples are prone to breaking up when money matters are starting to surface, Bianca believes that is similar to a business. “Marriage is not all romance. It’s a very small part of it. It’s like a business partnership.” Thankfully, a partnership with Ralph, as Bianca paints it, is trouble-free. “We were both very raw and authentic and our true selves from the very beginning,” she shares.
Contrary to popular belief that couples are prone to breaking up when money matters are starting to surface, Bianca believes that is similar to a business. “Marriage is not all romance. It’s a very small part of it. It’s like a business partnership.” Thankfully, a partnership with Ralph, as Bianca paints it, is trouble-free. “We were both very raw and authentic and our true selves from the very beginning,” she shares.
“One thing [that I love about him] would be how understanding and supportive he can actually be of me. He can fully take me as I am. I don’t have to pretend to be somebody else,” Bianca looks back, lamenting her misspent love on men in her younger years, where she had to tweak parts of her personality to tailor-fit herself into the faint romantic relationships that were bound to break from the get-go.
“One thing [that I love about him] would be how understanding and supportive he can actually be of me. He can fully take me as I am. I don’t have to pretend to be somebody else,” Bianca looks back, lamenting her misspent love on men in her younger years, where she had to tweak parts of her personality to tailor-fit herself into the faint romantic relationships that were bound to break from the get-go.
Being a mother, let alone being married, is one laborious act. Bianca can only imagine what both are capable of bringing, but now that she is blessed with them, she thanks the whole world for it. She attests to how heavy the pressure was, but when the burden was finally hollowed out and she found out that she was baby-positive, she let this line be a regular reminder: “Just embrace this moment, rest, and lower your expectations, ’cause you’re growing something from a single cell into a human form.”
Being a mother, let alone being married, is one laborious act. Bianca can only imagine what both are capable of bringing, but now that she is blessed with them, she thanks the whole world for it. She attests to how heavy the pressure was, but when the burden was finally hollowed out and she found out that she was baby-positive, she let this line be a regular reminder: “Just embrace this moment, rest, and lower your expectations, ’cause you’re growing something from a single cell into a human form.”
Lead photos by Amani Lindsell for Twill & Tee
Lead photos by Amani Lindsell for Twill & Tee
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